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When do you know it’s time to end a herpes relationship?

Not every relationship is picture perfect. Every relationship goes through ups and downs but this doesn’t mean things aren’t working out. However, when there are a few complexities in the relationship, it is advised you make a choice and don’t make your life stagnant.

It has been observed that people living with herpes who are in a relationship with someone who isn’t affected with the STD, are more likely to split owing to a host of different reasons. This article highlights some of the common reasons that should make you wonder if it’s time to end the herpes relationship.

  • When you know your partner didn’t tell about his herpes diagnosis: Trust is one of the important factors in any relationship. When you’re in a relationship with someone and you get to know that he has been affected with herpes but didn’t tell you about it, should you consider giving him a chance? Although there can be a host of reasons behind this, giving him/her another chance would mean giving another opportunity to stab you in the back. Given the fact that the herpes infection is an incurable STI, it is essential that there is transparency in the relationship.
  • He / she refrains from following any precautions: You know that your partner has the herpes simplex virus but he/she is in no mood to follow any precautions. According to medical experts, following precautions and taking medications is the only way to prevent giving spreading the virus to another individual. In case your partner hasn’t been following any precautions, it is evident that he isn’t worried about you and all he needs is someone to cater to his sexual desires.
  • You realize that there is no future: Realizing that you aren’t excited about the idea of getting married to your partner is a sure sign that things are no longer working the way you had anticipated earlier. Herpes isn’t the only reason for the rift between you and your companion. There are various other reasons why you should consider moving on. Some people have confessed that their partner’s behavior towards them changed significantly on discovering about their herpes infection. This is when you to take the bull by its horns and make the tough decision of seeking a better partner.

Not all herpes relationships work out. Although a lot of people say they wouldn’t mind getting into a relationship with someone living with herpes, things change when they’re on ground zero. Herpes dating site such as PositiveSingles.com have been known to cater to the needs of herpes singles since 2001. This is where you’d be able to connect with like – minded people from across the globe. This way, you wouldn’t have to worry about being cheated or even rejected because of your STD status. When you don’t need to have ‘the talk’, things are more likely to get simpler.


Positive ways in which having an Herpes can improve your life!

Being diagnosed with Herpes/STD can be a 20382014heartbreaking and overwhelming experience. Let’s face it, all of us are going through this. Although most of us want to just crawl into a corner and wallow in sadness, I thought it would be a great idea to try something new here. I myself was diagnosed with HSV, although I am not sure what type. I was heartbroken, because for me, I saved myself until I was eighteen, and then the first guy I slept with (and the only) passed it on to me. With the case of Herpes, for those of you who have it, we all know it never goes away. However, DON’T FRET! Life is all about overcoming obstacles, and what would it be without a challenge anyways? Herpes will always be a ‘fact,’ a ‘part of our lives,’ however, it is on us to choose to what level we will let this affect our happiness and ability to live fulfilling, joy filled lives. I for one won’t let it damper my flame! Here I would like to list some ways in which having herpes can affect your life in a POSITIVE way (this just doesn’t apply to herpes by the way).

Herpes can help you become more grateful for what you DO have in life. It is so easy to focus now on what we DON’T have (ugh we have this disease! Ugh we don’t have the same sex life! maybe.) But we can be thankful for SO much (our eyesight, our ability to love, our ability to walk). Having Herpes has opened my eyes to the beauty in the world around me. Yes I may be suffering from outbreaks every so often, but some people have to deal with the painful memories of a difficult past, or scars reminding them from an accident they had as a child (those will be a part of them forever too!). One thing that helped me is to write out, every morning , ten things in life that i was THANKFUL for. As I write them out, I feel the gratefulness, like really feel it (not just a half-hearted thank you, you have to feel it) and that exercise alone has helped me become more positive through this.

Another thing I’d like to mention is about how this gets us down. Yes, I am very optimistic, but yes, I am also human. Sometimes it still gets to me. Sometimes I get back into that cycle of feeling sad, being bitter towards my ex. etc. These are not healthy emotions, but all of us have them. When you find yourself slipping into this state, you can pull yourself out. Try listening to upbeat music, or exercise, or just do anything to get your mind off these thoughts (I usually think of a happy memory I had as a child). I think the most important message here is to try to stay positive as much as you possibly can given the circumstances, and with that, you will draw more happiness and joy into your life. So to everyone, good luck and stay positive!

Having Herpes can help kick start you into a direction of making healthier eating and living choices. Eating a proper, balanced diet, getting enough rest, and reducing stress will allow you to have less outbreaks, and are also probably THE BEST things for your body! So really, making these changes will benefit you in the long run. It has taught me to take better care of my body! Just think, maybe if you didn’t have the disease you would focus less on what your body needs (eating more fast food, not getting enough rest and partying all night, drinking excessively). You can start trying to alter your lifestyle more positively by searching different foods that can help prevent or trigger an outbreak, and different exercises and types of meditation that help relieve stress and promote relaxation (try the Internet or the library).

Meeting the right person does not have to be hard


When it comes to meeting someone new you need to understand that meeting in a public place is obviously a better idea than meeting at ones home. This makes everyone feel more comfortable. Ask you date before you meet up if there is a location you both know that can be in your “comfort zone”. This really helps because what people tend to do is try and make things easier for their date when they are just making things harder on themselves.

Another thing to remember is that even with a condom you can still get HSV-2 and if you are taking that next step with someone you must clear up the void and let them know you’re positive. Its not fair to keep it a secret at all. Imagine how that must feel. Betrayal and cheated in a way is no way to start a relationship.
If dating someone who is a carrier of an STD you have to realized that this may be a very hard time for them; if not for yourself as well. It’s hard to meet someone that actually knows your positive because it makes people a little nervous. Its always better to just take things slow and understand that WE have all been there. Its tough times and that’s why its nice to rely on PositiveSingles.com to help us get through these hard times.