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Positive ways in which having an Herpes can improve your life!

Being diagnosed with Herpes/STD can be a 20382014heartbreaking and overwhelming experience. Let’s face it, all of us are going through this. Although most of us want to just crawl into a corner and wallow in sadness, I thought it would be a great idea to try something new here. I myself was diagnosed with HSV, although I am not sure what type. I was heartbroken, because for me, I saved myself until I was eighteen, and then the first guy I slept with (and the only) passed it on to me. With the case of Herpes, for those of you who have it, we all know it never goes away. However, DON’T FRET! Life is all about overcoming obstacles, and what would it be without a challenge anyways? Herpes will always be a ‘fact,’ a ‘part of our lives,’ however, it is on us to choose to what level we will let this affect our happiness and ability to live fulfilling, joy filled lives. I for one won’t let it damper my flame! Here I would like to list some ways in which having herpes can affect your life in a POSITIVE way (this just doesn’t apply to herpes by the way).

Herpes can help you become more grateful for what you DO have in life. It is so easy to focus now on what we DON’T have (ugh we have this disease! Ugh we don’t have the same sex life! maybe.) But we can be thankful for SO much (our eyesight, our ability to love, our ability to walk). Having Herpes has opened my eyes to the beauty in the world around me. Yes I may be suffering from outbreaks every so often, but some people have to deal with the painful memories of a difficult past, or scars reminding them from an accident they had as a child (those will be a part of them forever too!). One thing that helped me is to write out, every morning , ten things in life that i was THANKFUL for. As I write them out, I feel the gratefulness, like really feel it (not just a half-hearted thank you, you have to feel it) and that exercise alone has helped me become more positive through this.

Another thing I’d like to mention is about how this gets us down. Yes, I am very optimistic, but yes, I am also human. Sometimes it still gets to me. Sometimes I get back into that cycle of feeling sad, being bitter towards my ex. etc. These are not healthy emotions, but all of us have them. When you find yourself slipping into this state, you can pull yourself out. Try listening to upbeat music, or exercise, or just do anything to get your mind off these thoughts (I usually think of a happy memory I had as a child). I think the most important message here is to try to stay positive as much as you possibly can given the circumstances, and with that, you will draw more happiness and joy into your life. So to everyone, good luck and stay positive!

Having Herpes can help kick start you into a direction of making healthier eating and living choices. Eating a proper, balanced diet, getting enough rest, and reducing stress will allow you to have less outbreaks, and are also probably THE BEST things for your body! So really, making these changes will benefit you in the long run. It has taught me to take better care of my body! Just think, maybe if you didn’t have the disease you would focus less on what your body needs (eating more fast food, not getting enough rest and partying all night, drinking excessively). You can start trying to alter your lifestyle more positively by searching different foods that can help prevent or trigger an outbreak, and different exercises and types of meditation that help relieve stress and promote relaxation (try the Internet or the library).

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Meeting the right person does not have to be hard

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When it comes to meeting someone new you need to understand that meeting in a public place is obviously a better idea than meeting at ones home. This makes everyone feel more comfortable. Ask you date before you meet up if there is a location you both know that can be in your “comfort zone”. This really helps because what people tend to do is try and make things easier for their date when they are just making things harder on themselves.

Another thing to remember is that even with a condom you can still get HSV-2 and if you are taking that next step with someone you must clear up the void and let them know you’re positive. Its not fair to keep it a secret at all. Imagine how that must feel. Betrayal and cheated in a way is no way to start a relationship.
If dating someone who is a carrier of an STD you have to realized that this may be a very hard time for them; if not for yourself as well. It’s hard to meet someone that actually knows your positive because it makes people a little nervous. Its always better to just take things slow and understand that WE have all been there. Its tough times and that’s why its nice to rely on PositiveSingles.com to help us get through these hard times.

Before you try to love other herpes singles, love yourself first

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Having herpes can be a very challenging herpes to have. Not only does it put a damper on your love life but it also puts a damper on your self esteem. With any herpes when you find out most people feel “dirty”. I am writing this so people can come up with ideas on how we can love and be happy with our self after any STD.

Me myself has a very long rocky road before I can love myself again. And as a result,it will be very hard for me to find the right person.

Like the saying once said before you can love someone you must love yourself. Most of us here are looking for the one or we already found the one and are just looking for friends. I wanted to write about this subject because a relationship for starters gets hard if you don’t love yourself and for two it gets hard to find someone if you don’t love yourself.

Love comes in many forms. Loving yourself is the most important. I would like to call it the foundation of everything that comes after it. I have seen many couples suffer in their relationships because of the lack of self love. The couples fight all the time. Or are always afraid that they are going to lose the person.And I have seen people look for the one but keep finding the same thing. They search and search but can’t find what they are looking for

Now what about the people in relationships. Do they really love each other? If they do not love themselves how can they love their mate? I am not writing this to attack people. I am writing this so you can find the one or finally love your mate. And lastly love yourself.

Take enough time to get to know someone with herpes

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Being a lesbian with Herpes seems unheard of, but the truth is, there are more ladies out there then you would originally assume that have come in contact with someone who has been a carrier of some sort.

It’s never fun, but I’ve learned for me, the key is, get to know someone over a three month period and after the third make out…

haha, It’s not a mathematical equation, but it does help with the pacing.

What I’ve learned is that disclosing is a filter like anything else and the more someone gets to know you, the less significant something like an STD is.

I have generally found that making out is totally fine, but after the third time over at least a month period, a disclosure isn’t a bad idea.

It works for me and not to mention, it gives me enough time as well to get to know if I even want to get with them.