Being diagnosed with Herpes/STD can be a heartbreaking and overwhelming experience. Let’s face it, all of us are going through this. Although most of us want to just crawl into a corner and wallow in sadness, I thought it would be a great idea to try something new here. I myself was diagnosed with HSV, although I am not sure what type. I was heartbroken, because for me, I saved myself until I was eighteen, and then the first guy I slept with (and the only) passed it on to me. With the case of Herpes, for those of you who have it, we all know it never goes away. However, DON’T FRET! Life is all about overcoming obstacles, and what would it be without a challenge anyways? Herpes will always be a ‘fact,’ a ‘part of our lives,’ however, it is on us to choose to what level we will let this affect our happiness and ability to live fulfilling, joy filled lives. I for one won’t let it damper my flame! Here I would like to list some ways in which having herpes can affect your life in a POSITIVE way (this just doesn’t apply to herpes by the way).
Herpes can help you become more grateful for what you DO have in life. It is so easy to focus now on what we DON’T have (ugh we have this disease! Ugh we don’t have the same sex life! maybe.) But we can be thankful for SO much (our eyesight, our ability to love, our ability to walk). Having Herpes has opened my eyes to the beauty in the world around me. Yes I may be suffering from outbreaks every so often, but some people have to deal with the painful memories of a difficult past, or scars reminding them from an accident they had as a child (those will be a part of them forever too!). One thing that helped me is to write out, every morning , ten things in life that i was THANKFUL for. As I write them out, I feel the gratefulness, like really feel it (not just a half-hearted thank you, you have to feel it) and that exercise alone has helped me become more positive through this.
Another thing I’d like to mention is about how this gets us down. Yes, I am very optimistic, but yes, I am also human. Sometimes it still gets to me. Sometimes I get back into that cycle of feeling sad, being bitter towards my ex. etc. These are not healthy emotions, but all of us have them. When you find yourself slipping into this state, you can pull yourself out. Try listening to upbeat music, or exercise, or just do anything to get your mind off these thoughts (I usually think of a happy memory I had as a child). I think the most important message here is to try to stay positive as much as you possibly can given the circumstances, and with that, you will draw more happiness and joy into your life. So to everyone, good luck and stay positive!
Having Herpes can help kick start you into a direction of making healthier eating and living choices. Eating a proper, balanced diet, getting enough rest, and reducing stress will allow you to have less outbreaks, and are also probably THE BEST things for your body! So really, making these changes will benefit you in the long run. It has taught me to take better care of my body! Just think, maybe if you didn’t have the disease you would focus less on what your body needs (eating more fast food, not getting enough rest and partying all night, drinking excessively). You can start trying to alter your lifestyle more positively by searching different foods that can help prevent or trigger an outbreak, and different exercises and types of meditation that help relieve stress and promote relaxation (try the Internet or the library).